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Being an INFJ
Jan. 24th, 2015 07:33 pmMaybe not the personality type as a whole, mostly the first letter. I work in specialty retail and a large portion of my job involves talking to people, and being an introvert makes that difficult. While the reasons for me continuing my time in retail is multifaceted one of them has always been to fight against the cons of my personality. Without my time in retail I would be woefully antisocial.
Over a decade has passed and I am now seeing what the long term effects are turning out to be. Interacting with people on a regular basis, especially with people you don't know, is... draining. I guess it's on an emotional level, I get home after a day of work and I feel like interacting with nobody. There exceptions of course, good friends and family make that list easily, I just am not going to be the one to instigate conversation unless I need to know something.
It has started to affect the norm though, for example: this Christmas time, a time where I am crazy busy, I had friends visiting the area and wanted to meet up and I just had no intentions of doing so. I was more concerned with getting some alone time then hanging out with good friends I haven't seen in a long time. I used the excuse of being tired, and while it was true it wasn't the meat behind the matter. This made me feel wretched with myself and vowed that next year, if my job hasn't changed by then, I would make an exception.
I'm curious to see if this "emotional draining" is more prominent in INFJ's than other introverts. Some studying may be in order. What I do know is if it becomes harder and harder to deal with I may have to find other work. We'll see.
Over a decade has passed and I am now seeing what the long term effects are turning out to be. Interacting with people on a regular basis, especially with people you don't know, is... draining. I guess it's on an emotional level, I get home after a day of work and I feel like interacting with nobody. There exceptions of course, good friends and family make that list easily, I just am not going to be the one to instigate conversation unless I need to know something.
It has started to affect the norm though, for example: this Christmas time, a time where I am crazy busy, I had friends visiting the area and wanted to meet up and I just had no intentions of doing so. I was more concerned with getting some alone time then hanging out with good friends I haven't seen in a long time. I used the excuse of being tired, and while it was true it wasn't the meat behind the matter. This made me feel wretched with myself and vowed that next year, if my job hasn't changed by then, I would make an exception.
I'm curious to see if this "emotional draining" is more prominent in INFJ's than other introverts. Some studying may be in order. What I do know is if it becomes harder and harder to deal with I may have to find other work. We'll see.
